Personal and Professional Transformation
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Relationships and Results
Personal and professional leadership begins by developing relationships that assure results. However, people are different. The type of relationship that one person prefers with you might irritate someone else. Leaders recognize those who want a friendship, need to be in control of the relationship, want to be taken care of, or would rather be left alone.
Creating a Competitive, Cooperative Cohesive Culture
People do not manage people. Culture manages people. Leaders create a culture that is competitive, cooperative and cohesive. In this way people work effectively together as a team. They know when to be a leader, a team player, supportive of their team members and when to function independently.
Making a transformation from personal to professional leadership begins within yourself, of understanding what needs motivate you, as well as those anti-needs that de-motivate you. Otherwise, rather than seeing people for who they are, you will only be seeing reflections of yourself.
II
Self Esteem
The Value of Failure and the Gifts of Adversity
Are you externally or internally oriented?
When your self-esteem is based on your own sense of value then,
whether you win or lose, or are loved or rejected,
you will capitalize on the experience.
Success can be dangerous, but failure is always positive. Failure is only an experience that was less than you expected in which you must demand to know, what have I gained? These experiences renew your humility, sharpen your objectivity and get you one step closer to what you are after. Even more challenging than failure is when you succeed, and then lose what you have gained, which is adversity. How can that which traumatizes you become the best experience of your life? Adversity reminds you to keep your sense of humor, strengthens your resiliency and gives you insight into those adjustments you need to make to get back on target.
III
Creating Charisma
Charisma is the balancing of opposite qualities into a personality in which most everyone trusts and respects you
Reacting to rejection in a way that converts resistance into
receptivity so you develop relationships that assure your results
Rejection can be an amusing experience, or the worst experience of your life. What are the three reasons why you might be over-sensitive to rejection? How can you react to negative feedback in a way that disarms people and gains their acceptance? Charisma is the balancing of sensitivity which gains trust and confidence that causes people to feel secure depending on you.
IV
Thriving on Stress
Rather than causing depression or anger,
anxiety can ignite your imagination,
of all the ways to reverse a down cycle and succeed
When experiencing stress, you will seek devices that relieve you of this negative energy. Negative addictions, while relieving stress, are self destructive. Positive addictions, more than eliminating anxiety, will improve your physical, financial and psychological well being, as well as your relationships. Stress also stimulates your creativity, to imagine all the opportunities, while giving you the added energy to stay in positive momentum. What are the ten negative and the four positive addictions?
V
Coaching
What you lack in desire, you must make up for in discipline.
Consider the child who takes on new adventures with enthusiasm, but soon confronts disappointment. In that moment, as though a two person relay, you must pass the baton from the child who, discouraged and having lost the desire to persevere, to the marine drill sergeant who carries you the rest of the way through discipline.
There are twenty self coaching techniques that can keep you on target, no matters what happens, such as competing with someone to achieve the same objective, breaking the challenge into stepping stones, being a mentor to someone who needs your help, developing positive affirmations, emulating someone who has the qualities you need, creating confidence by imagining yourself succeeding before you try, committing yourself to someone who is important to you, creating a schedule that forces you to stay proactive and finding someone to partner with in sharing the same challenge. In this way you stay on target, regardless of what happens.
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Self Image
Imagine the thermostat is set for seventy degrees. In summer, when the temperature reaches seventy two the air conditioner comes on and cools you down, and in winter, when the temperature drops, the heater comes on and raises the energy. You also have a thermostat in your mind, referred to as your self-image, which controls your level of success. If you go beyond your sense of worth you will become comfortable and reduce your effort. If you drop below your self-image you will challenge yourself to get back to what you feel you deserve. How can you raise your self-image and take your success to the next level?
VII
The Strategies and Skills of
Communication and Persuasion
Leaders have the empathy to develop ideal relationships that earn them the right to ask critical questions. Only then can they understand someone’s needs and be able to develop solutions that solve problems. They also have the confidence to confront conflict, gain agreement and assure the other person’s satisfaction. They are confidently empathetic.
What are the leadership strategies that can enhance our communication and persuasive skills to help achieve mutually beneficial objectives?